Back in the summer of 2009, Cameron and I lived with my parents for the summer. At the time, I was really not a huge fan of the idea; I love my parents, but Cameron and I had just gotten married and I had this picture-perfect idea in my head that I really wanted us to be in our own place and not living in my parents’ basement. However, given what we had going on that summer (Cameron was doing an internship in one city on one side of town and I was working in another city on the opposite side of town, neither of which were close to Ann Arbor) logistically, it really did not make sense for us to move into an apartment until the fall when Cam started grad school. So I had to swallow my pride and we moved in with my parents for the summer.
And in retrospect, it ended up being a great experience.
I really have to give kudos to Cameron on this one because he was really the one who got behind the idea of living with my parents for those few months. He easily could have said no way, and thought that living with my parents as a newlywed would be way too awkward, but instead he was really humble and knew that this was the choice that made the most sense for us at the time. In the end, I think that summer really allowed him to build stronger relationships with my family, get a better sense of our family dynamic, and to really see firsthand just how important my family is to me. And because we were also going through a time of transition (having just gotten married and having both of us working full-time) it was also really great to be able to rely on my parents and not have to worry about things like grocery shopping and meal planning for those few months. The time ended up going by really quickly, we moved to our apartment in Ann Arbor in the fall, and the rest is history.
The reason I bring that story up is because it’s something I’ve thought about quite a bit recently. Because here we are, four years later and we’re in a very similar situation. Except this time we’re living with Cam’s parents. And I feel like this time around, I have a little more perspective.
When I’ve told people that we’ve been living with my in-laws for the past month, the reaction I’ve gotten from some people is like a “Oh man, how much does that suck?” kind of response. Because I know for many people, they would never want to live with their in-laws. So they assume it would be really weird, especially considering the fact that Cam has been traveling quite a bit for work over the past month so it’s just been me and his parents. But I feel lucky because that’s totally not the case at all in my situation and the past month has been really great! Cam’s parents are such nice people and have been nothing but very gracious and hospitable to me. Plus I feel like it’s allowed me to get to know his family better and gain some more insight into their family dynamic, which has been really cool.
Cameron left to go to school in Michigan when he was 18, and while he did come home for a few summers in college, he hasn’t lived in Oregon for an extended period of time in many years. His family, like mine, is very close and so I know that they have really loved having him be back at home this past month and enjoyed being able to spend so much time with him. Plus, Cam has had a lot on his plate with moving all our stuff from Tahoe and starting a new job, which is always somewhat stressful. So to be here and have a little break before moving into our apartment has been really nice, especially since Cam’s parents house is very relaxing. Overall, I think it’s been positive experience to start off this next chapter of us living in Oregon. And it’s just been a great reminder of how thankful I am that Cameron and I both have families that are so supportive. It really is a blessing to know that no matter what happens, we’ll always have somewhere to go and people who will be there for us.
I wanted to share these photos today because tomorrow
we move in to our new apartment in downtown Portland! (Bright and early, I might add…not quite as excited about that part
Although living with Cam’s parents this past month has been great and we’re very appreciative of them letting us stay here, we are very excited to finally move in to our new place! It will be so nice to get our stuff out of boxes, get settled in, explore Portland more, and get into a day-to-day routine in our new city. It will probably be a few weeks before I share any apartment photos here on the blog, but hopefully I’ll have everything together soon! In the meantime, feel free to follow along with me on Instagram (@inthepinkandgreen)! Have a great weekend everyone! Xoxo